How to be Happy: 15 Things to Start Doing
Have you ever considered what you could do for yourself to ensure you’re the best version of you? Are you the type of individual who puts other people’s needs and priorities ahead of your own? Here are a few tips from Marc and Angel Chernoff, authors of 1,000+ Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently that you can start implementing into your life.
#1) Start spending time with the right people: These are the people who you enjoy spending time with, who love and appreciate you, and encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways. They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are today but who you want to become.
#2) Start facing your problems head on: Your problems don’t define you, it’s how you react and act on them. Problems won’t disappear unless you take action. Do what and when you can and acknowledge what you’ve accomplished. It’s all about taking baby steps in the right direction.
#3) Be honest with yourself (about everything): Be honest about what’s right and what needs to change. Be honest about what you want to achieve and who you want to become. Be honest with every aspect of your life, always! It all starts with YOU!
#4) Start making your own happiness a priority: Your needs matter! If you don’t value your happiness, you’re only sabotaging yourself. Remember, it’s possible to take care of your own needs while simultaneously caring for those around you. Once your needs are met and you’re happy, you will be far more capable of helping others.
#5) Start being yourself, genuinely and proudly: Trying to be someone else can be exhausting! Embrace that individual inside you that has ideas, strengths and beauty like no one else. Be yourself – the best version of you, on your own terms! Above all, be true to YOU!
#6) Start noticing and live in the present: NOW is the only moment guaranteed to you. Right now is life. Stop thinking about how great things will be in the future or could’ve been in the past. Learn to be in the present and experience life as it’s happening. Appreciate the world for the beauty that it holds, right now.
#7) Start valuing the lessons your mistakes teach you: Mistakes are okay (in fact, they’re great) – they’re the stepping stones of progress. If you’re not failing from time to time, you’re not trying hard enough and you’re not learning. Take risks, stumble, fall, and then get up and try again. Appreciate that you are pushing yourself, learning, growing and improving. One of the ‘mistakes’ you fear might just be the link to your greatest achievement yet.
#8) Start enjoying the things you already have: The problem with many of us is that we think we’ll be happy when we reach a certain level in life – a level we see others operating at. Whether it’s your boss with her corner office, a friend who owns a mansion on the beach and so on. Unfortunately, it takes a while before you get there, and when you do get there, you’ll likely have a new destination in mind. Stop comparing, as your journey will never be the same as others. You’ll end up spending your whole life working towards something new without ever stopping to enjoy the things you have now. So, take a quiet moment every morning when you wake up and appreciate where you’re at and what you already have.
#9) Start creating your own happiness: If you’re waiting for someone else to make you happy, you’re missing out. Smile because you can. Choose happiness. Be the change you want to see in the world. Be happy with where you are now, and let your positivity inspire your journey into tomorrow. Happiness is often found when and where you decide to seek it. If you look for happiness within the opportunities you have, you will eventually find it.
#10) Start giving new people you meet a chance: It sounds harsh, but you cannot keep every friend you’ve ever made. People and priorities change. As some relationships fade, others will grow. Appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgement. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.
#11) Start cheering for other people’s victories: Start noticing what you like about others and tell them. Having an appreciation of the people around you leads to good places. Be happy for those who are making progress in their lives – cheer for their victories. Be thankful for their blessings openly. What goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you.
#12) Start being attentive to your stress level and take short breaks: Slow down. Breathe. Give yourself permission to pause, re-group and move forward with clarity and purpose. When you’re at your busiest, a brief recess can rejuvenate your mind and increase your productivity. These short breaks will help you regain your sanity and reflect on your recent actions so you can be sure they’re in line with your goals.
#13) Start accepting things when they are less than perfect: Remember, ‘perfect’ is the enemy of ‘good’. One of the biggest challenges for people who want to improve themselves and improve the world is learning to accept things as they are. Sometimes it’s better to accept and appreciate the world as it is and people as they are, rather than trying to make everything and everyone conform to an impossible ideal. No, you shouldn’t accept a life of mediocrity, but learn to love and value things when they are less than perfect.
#14) Start taking full accountability: Own your choices and mistakes, and be willing to take the necessary steps to improve upon them. Either you take accountability for your life or someone else will. And when they do, you’ll become a slave to their ideas and dreams instead of a pioneer of your own. You are the only one who can directly control the outcome of your life. And no, it won’t always be easy. Every person has a stack of obstacles in front of them. But you must take accountability for your situation and overcome these obstacles head on.
#15) Start concentrating on the things you can control: You can’t change everything, but you can always change something. Wasting your time, talent and emotional energy on things that are beyond your control is a recipe for frustration and misery. Invest your energy on the things you can control, and take action.
Hopefully these tricks will help guide you through your path on becoming a happier person. Remember, these actions don’t need to be implemented all at once, take baby steps as these habits are for the long-haul.